SPEAKING OF LOVE: We were out to dinner the other evening and the conversation turned to relationships, and more specifically how many people don’t know how their partner ‘needs’ love expressed to them.
It seems a lot of people our age are having relationship issues, breaking up etcetera, and a debate developed as to whether people ‘weren’t loving the other person’, or maybe, ‘weren’t loving their partner the way that person needed to be loved.’
Is there a difference, and should it matter? I’m pretty clear on this, but that’s another story.
Anyway, knock me over with a feather, my wife Sonya says …
“I know Stephen loves me because he turns my bedside light off every night!”
Someone asks, “You mean as he comes to bed?” … She replies, “No, he gets out of bed and comes over and does it, even though I can reach the switch.”
Of course I’m feeling a bit stupid now as the guys are looking at me sideways.
She continues … “It’s even better when I wake him up to do it.” I say, “Yeah but I grumble like crazy when that happens.” But as Sonya points out, “I do it anyway.”
The guys now are now totally dumbfounded, and probably pissed off at our putting such crazy ideas in their wives’ heads.
But isn’t it amazing? I thought buying flowers, making her breakfast in bed, saying “I love you”, even vacuuming would be the answer …
But no …
My wife knows I love her because I turn her light off …
Amazing!
PS If this isn’t enough relationship advice, this blog post was inspired by one on Digg that said, “Boobs Are Not Squeeze Toys”. Probably more what the guys that night were expecting to hear … But hey, the truth is…
“It’s all about the light”
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What?! She wakes you up to turn off her light for her?
LOL yes she does … Not often, but over the years it has become a bit of a game.
I’ve had so many direct comments about “Turning her light off”, I thought i would write about how this came about, you can find it here ….
http://www.stephenbaugh.com/blog/2008/09/when-she-stole-my-heart/
Thank you for a wonderful story. I have quoted you in my blog and linked it back to here. I ‘stumbled upon’ your blog and read the stories about the light and then read the rest of your blog. Thank you for sharing with us. Please come and visit me, Stephen, on my blog so that you will know why I chose to quote you. Blessings…
i don’t know if i like this article . . . on its face, it’s describing a tyrannical woman who makes you turn her light off for her even though she can reach it herself. then after some elucidation, it’s revealed that it’s just a game more than a favor, and doesnt happen very often. kinda loses its meaningful relationship value.
Thanks for the comment … Yay, finally a doubter :-)
I agree to an extent, but only that “our games” might not be right for you.
I do however believe that “games”, “traditions”, and “private jokes” etc are actually really important to relationships. Romance in a way is a game, a dance between to people … it’s what in my opinion keeps the spark alive.
But most importantly thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Nice post about the “little things” that can mean so much in a relationship.
Great story, I totally agree that sometimes people don’t really understand “how” to do the little things that show your partner you love them. Sometimes it is the smallest stupidest things that really stick in their mind and reminds them of your love. Sometimes, as in your case, we do it completely by accident and some of us never even know what special little things we are doing that seem like every day life as usual to us.
My wife tells me she knows I love her because every night I run her a hot bubble bath and give her a “kid free” hour in the tub with her book. Just goes to show that something as simple as an hour of personal time can mean more than roses and candy.
@Relationhip Resue … thank you.
LOL I wish someone ran me bubble bath, I am off to talk to Sonya with my new wish list. :-)
wow. thats so sweet :D
wow. thats so sweet :D
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